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If I'm So Smart, Why Can't I Control My Drinking?

Updated: May 29, 2021

I used to think that I would never be able to stop over drinking. I learned about a tool and practice that rewired my brain, that changed everything.

Understanding Desire

Our desire is learned. We learn desire by having a thought and rewarding it. Over time the rewards are so ingrained that we don't see that we have any control. The good news is that you can unlearn your desires. For you, that means you can unlearn your desire to drink. I want to offer that once you learn this tool, you will know how to stop your over drinking. You'll be able to cut back or eliminate drinking as much as you would like to do.

Unlearning Your Desire to Drink

Here is how it works. You go out with your friends and you have a thought, "I want to have a drink". Your thought has created a feeling, which I will label an "urge". You have the drink and the urge is rewarded. When you repeat that over and over, it becomes involuntary. The way we unlearn this behavior is to interrupt the thought by not giving the thought a reward. It is that simple. There needs to be a commitment from you to do so. Once you do this thousands of time you will have control over the urge. Just like Pavlov's dogs and how they learned to drool when they heard the bell ring.

No More White Knuckling It

Your first option is to have the drink which will perpetuate the habit. The second option is to resist the drink which will eventually lead to having the drink because we only have so much willpower. The third option is to allow the emotions that come with not giving into the urge. We allow the urge-the ringing of the bell, allow the drool and do nothing to reward it. Eventually, the drool will not come anymore.

✅ P.S. Need a simple to follow step-by-step process to drink less? Check out my signature programs HERE.

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