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My Big Girl Panties

Updated: May 29, 2021

Clearing Away the Self Induced Dread, Boredom, & "I Have To's..."

Did you have a day when you realized that you're not a child anymore? 

Did you look over your shoulder and realize YOU are the adult in the room?

Have you realized that if anything is going to get done or change for the better it needs to get done by you?

Maybe you haven't had that epiphany yet, and your searching for something outside of yourself to make things better or to make things change in your life.

Or, maybe you have, but you just haven't started the massive action in your life to make the changes that ONLY YOU can make happen.

Perhaps, you have realized this but you're kicking and screaming the whole time.


Maybe you're resenting that you have to do all of the hard work.

Are you resenting how hard life is? Things aren't fair for you?


I had a "come to Jesus" moment and decided I have to put on my big girl panties!


I was tired of the little voice in my head telling me the same story everyday. I realized that I was the one creating those thoughts.

I had formed the bad habit of complaining about my daily chores (I have to go grocery shopping, I have to make the kids lunch, etc) instead of being thankful for what I get to do. I should be grateful that I have a grocery store to shop at and money to purchase food. I should be grateful I have kids to make lunch for- Right?

I was creating the "dreadful" results in my life by repeating the negative mantras in my mind.

It was as though some foreign alien had taken over me.

Those thoughts helped to perpetuate my reasons for pouring a glass of wine (or a bottle) to help me "get through" this "dreary" life. 

It was an attitude that I had adopted somewhat unknowingly.

I created an emotional hangover, and an actual hangover from trying to make it through the end of the day by unwinding and numbing out with drinking alcohol.

What was I trying to numb out from?

By most standards my life was really fabulous. I am truly living my "Happily Ever After".

I was the one in charge of my thoughts and my results.

I started saying yes to myself and all of the things I wanted feel positive about.


I stopped creating the story that I don't have time to work on myself. 

I stopped looking to my husband to motivate me. I stopped looking outside of myself to feel better and looked inside of myself.

I gave permission to myself to not only find the answers but to actually implement the solutions.


We call this Emotional Adulthood


When you reach this you realize that you CANNOT under any circumstances blame ANYTHING outside of yourself. 

You are the adult in charge of your own life.

Take the time to look at your own thoughts that are perpetuating a habit of over drinking. Are you creating a dialog that makes you want to drink to unplug, unwind, or numb out?

You can change your over desire for over drinking.

You just need to be a detective and start listening to your thoughts.


✅ P.S. Need a simple to follow step-by-step process to drink less? Check out my signature programs HERE.

*Photo Credit: Etsy: Ginny Wheelsley

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