Imagine the morning when you woke up feeling miserable from a night of heavy drinking.
Your mouth is dry and tastes like stale alcohol.
You're dehydrated.
Your head is perhaps pounding or foggy. Your thoughts are racing trying to recall what you drank the night before.
At that moment you're wondering, How could I have let it happen again?
On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest, your desire to drink is at a 1!
You don't drink for a few days and you start to feel healthier, more confident, and more clearheaded. That decision to not drink seems like a distant memory and the desire to drink is starting to show up again. Your desire to drink is creeping back up to a 9 or 10.
Willpower has been your champion for a few days but now it's starting to wane. Your inner voice starts to say, One won't hurt, or I've been so "good" why not have a drink?
Nevertheless, no matter how strong your willpower was/is, when there is a greater pain associated with not drinking than there is with drinking, you will eventually give in to the desire to drink again - unless you have changed at a deeper and more fundamental level.
Willpower's job is there to initiate and sustain short-term changes in your life, but without doing deeper work, willpower alone will never get you to where you need to be.
Willpower is limited and varies from person to person. It's o.k. to admit you have a limited amount of it. It really doesn't matter who you are, it's the same for all of us.
People who appear to have incredible amounts of willpower are successful at achieving their goals because they have set themselves up on the inside for success.
Let me ask you, are you not sure what to do when the rolodex of excuses to drink is in high gear and the thought “I deserve it” sounds so convincing? Or maybe you don’t even know what the rolodex of excuses is?
Wondering why you have the best of intentions each morning, only for them to disappear by the time 5pm rolls around?
It’s okay to be confused.
Mastering self coaching (and learning that your thoughts create your actions and your actions give you the results in your life) requires practice. It took me a long time to put the tools into my daily practice as well.
Furthermore, it’s one thing to read what I teach each week in these emails and blog posts, an it’s quite another thing to actually start trying to use the tools in your life every day.
Which is why I've created Weekdays Without Wine Bootcamp program. It's designed to teach you how to not rely on willpower instead it will teach you how to manage your mind and change your deeply engrained belief system around alcohol that keeping you stuck on this merry-go-round ride.
I'm here for you and I'll teach you how to be a "self coaching master" so you can drink less permanently.
Join me in my signature program Weekdays Without Wine Bootcamp!
Let's do this together!
Be well,
Stephanie