Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.
-Albert Einstein
Can a question change your life?
Heck, YES!!
Think about it, all day long you ask yourself questions. What should I wear? What errands do I have to run? What time is the game tonight? Are we out of apples and should I go to the grocery store? What time do I have that Dr.'s appointment? Did anyone feed the dogs today?... You get the picture.
All day long, a question -> a decision -> an answer/solution.
Sometimes the questions we ask ourselves keep us stuck in our current reality... Stuck in "over drinking" and beating ourselves up. Should I drink tonight? How am I going to say no when someone offers me a drink? Should I have another? Why did I drink too much again? Why can't I change? What else can I do because nothing is working?
When on this journey to drink less and creating a drinking protocol that creates healthy and balanced decisions around alcohol, you will find yourself in "slip-ups" from time to time. The most important thing for you to do is to not let one of these incidents define who you are. You need to just pick yourself back up and keep moving forward with your work to change your relationship with alcohol.
That's why in Weekdays Without Wine Bootcamp program we don't count days and we don't start back on a "Day 1" if you drink off of your drinking protocol or "drink plan". Don't downplay your personal growth and all that you have learned since you've embarked on a journey to change your relationship with alcohol.
There are questions you can ask to move away from your limiting beliefs and transform your relationship with alcohol. “The most important thing to do is to not stop questioning.” That is advice from Albert Einstein, the Nobel Prize winner in Physics. He said, "Curiosity has its own reason for existing."
Einstein knew a thing or two about questioning. He knew that the process of frequently asking questions engages your subconscious mind, which searches for endless answers. The database of your unconscious mind outweighs the conscious on an order exceeding ten million to one!!! What if Einstein gave up on asking questions? Our world would be a different place, right? Think of this journey as the Scientific Method you learned in high school. You make a hypothesis (question) and then test it. If the experiment doesn't work the way you want it to you question what happened and then create a new course of action so you can be successful.
When you put your subconscious to work with asking it questions, you will soon find the answers that will change your life. Have you ever had an experience where you are wanting to add something into your life, like a new car and you've narrowed down the type of car you want? Then, all of the sudden you start seeing that new car everywhere, and you see advertisements about that car that were perhaps there all along but you weren't ready to see them because you weren't interested and asking yourself, "what kind of new car do I want?"
You can have your conscious and subconscious start working better together by asking questions that will help you find your answers. That is one of the reasons I have a weekly "Quality Question" posted in the private FB group Weekdays Without Wine so you can ask yourself a question that you might not have asked yourself with a prompt from me to help you understand your relationship with alcohol on a different level.
The quality of your life = the quality of your questions.
You must ask yourself quality questions such as, "how can I achieve a drink plan/protocol that will work for me?" instead of, "why can't I ever make a change to my drinking", or "why am I so weak and give into drinking when I don't want to?" Avoid why questions. Not asking a "why" question is a general rule in most types of therapy. The reason not to is the initial answer or response tends to be a justification or rationalization. If you do use a "why" question use the "why" like so, "Why am I so great at doing _________?", or "Why am I such a loving and understanding person?".
Ask yourself, "How can I change my relationship with alcohol and love the process along the way?"
I'm here for you and I'll teach you how to ask yourself the best quality questions. So, join me in my signature program Weekdays Without Wine Bootcamp! Let's do this together!
Be well,
Stephanie xo