I didn't know how to trust myself... Or so I thought.
Self-Confidence Definition:
To be secure in yourself and your abilities.
Know matter what I thought about quitting over drinking, I realized I didn't trust myself.
I didn't think I could do this hard thing.
I was bankrupt on confidence.
I kept finding myself slipping into thoughts that made me NOTtrust myself.
My primal--fun seeking, easy road, let's tackle this tomorrow-- brain was in control and I was weak so I kept giving in to the easiness of my false pleasures.
When I set myself on this course of stopping over drinking I had to teach myself self-confidence and how to trust myself.
Self confidence is an ability. It comes down to knowing that you will do what you have said you will do.
You will take care of yourself. You will do the responsible and useful thing for yourself even when you don't feel like it.
You must NOThope you will follow through. This leaves room for self-doubt, which is the opposite of self-confidence.
If you can't count on yourself, you will feel insecure and "at the effect" of yourself instead of in charge, in control, and self-confident.
Where do you start to regain self-confidence? You MUST believe that you can experience ANY emotion.
When you feel awkward, anxious, self-conscious, dull, annoyed, sad, celebratory, festive, etc. (ALL the emotions of when you want to have a drink), you must know that a full life will consist of all of these emotions. Without needing a drink to get you through them.
Trust yourself to FEEL...
Every,
Single,
One!
If you do feel them what result will you get?
You will remember the experience.
You won't doubt your memory.
You won't doubt what you said.
You will build your self-confidence that you can do hard things.
Don't worry if you have lost the ability how to have self-confidence. It is there lying inside of you waiting to come out to play.
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