Updated: Dec 29, 2020
One of the most common mistakes people do when trying to drink less is focus on their actions:
Don't pick up the drink.
How to say, "no".
What can I do instead of having a drink?
What you do need to focus on are your thoughts and what is going on inside of your brain once you start noticing your urge to have a drink.
Curiosity is the key component. Quality questions is the name of the game.
What is it that you're truly desiring at the moment of your urge? I'll tell you, alcohol has not ONE human quality. Therefore, it'll never give you what you're looking for!
You don't yet know what you want in that moment because you haven't practiced awareness.
So I'll let you in on what I know:
You are desiring a feeling! The thing is you're too quick to answer your desire with a drink to really know what you need. You never give yourself a chance to explore and the habit of reaching for a drink is quick and for now very powerful!
It's a habit. A habit you can change... I PROMISE!
I know what you want... you want your power back.
You want your control back.
The next time you start to notice and the urge to drink get curious. Getting curious is a practice.
Don't expect it to be an experience of the clouds parting and angels singing. I can guarantee though, that you will see a glimmer of hope and a light shining toward the end of this tunnel of struggling. Ask yourself these questions:
What am I really desiring right now?
What feeling am I in search of?
What do I need to practice and think to feel peaceful?
You're up for the challenge!
Deep down you want to try and this is the first step. Little by little, curious questions after curious question you'll get there.
For change to last you must rewire your brain. Thank goodness there is proven research that you can change your neural pathways and create new habits... even habits that you think are out of your control - think Pavlov's Dogs.
You've got this... one question at a time.