In the last week or there about have you said to yourself:
"Saying 'No' is too hard".
"Just one drink won't hurt".
"I'll never change"!
"I don't want to feel left out".
You can't change your habit of drinking with just saying, "No".
I've tried... and I'm sure you have, too... and it just doesn't work.
You have to change your brain.
How? I'm glad you asked.
#1 - you must begin with questioning your thoughts (which is a skill - it takes time & no one is perfect or get it right the first few times, or many times for that matter). You just have to start somewhere.
#2 You must stop responding to your thoughts without reacting, distracting, or pushing them away.
These aren't just skills you need to learn to change your habit/relationship with alcohol - these are skills everyone needs to apply to all areas of their lives.
Daunting? - No. It's easier than you think.
Otherwise you're using a limited commodity - Willpower... which is just like a your physical energy, over time it just runs out until you're on empty (not a fun place to live in).
#3 Changing your relationship with yourself and your thoughts is how you change your relationship with alcohol. Celebrating wins and being curious (not judgemental) about your mistakes.
The relationship with YOU is the priority. I know that's a tough idea to get used to because you're so used to putting others first.
When you put yourself first it is so much easier to say no to your excuses to drink (see quotes above 😊).
It's time to learn about YOU by questioning your thoughts and not responding to them.
You CAN do this!